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How would i describe my friendship journey throughout my life?

Often, i get along with people very easily because i maybe some what outgoing or others would say flirtatious. Because of this, people soon felt that i am a friend to have perhaps because i am very helpful and may help them in times when they require. People start flocking to me, get to be what people would call friends. At that period of time, I have no intention of ruining the start of a good friendship, soon this friendship grew to be best friends

However, i have this tendency to spark up a conflict after a period of these beautiful friendships. After a period of time, I would have noticed all these friends behaviours, characters and faults. At some point of time, i would get very frustrated with the continuous observations of their mistakes, A nerve will break in my body and I will start spittting out all kinds of insults towards these friends. They will as though that they have done nothing wrong, ignore and thought that i would be unreasonable. After effects would either be an argument or a cry which will end up into broken friendships.

After then, it would be the silent treatment. Anything that these friends do or say, i will signal either a yes or a no. not a word spoken. If i am forced to say something, it will be sarcasms. This will eventually worsen the friendship. I will ignore them whenever they are in sight or give them a stuck up face. For those who have experienced my silent treatment, you will know that my silent treatment does not only affect these friends, but also their 2nd degree friends. They will also be given the silent treatment. Why? Some people like to dig out some dirt from someone to worsen the situation or try to mend the bridge. I do not like that kind of things to happen. When i say something to them, meet them, they may pick up some of my quotes and distribute to these friends, or persuade me to just forgive and forget. However, those kind of things never happens. My silent treatment last for as long as 6 months. I believe that only time heals the wound. If after six months i have began speaking to you sensically, that is a sign that these friends can start afresh. Most of the time, these friendships never get repaired, it will remain broken.

True friends are not those you would go after, they will come to you. Friends come to you not because they can depend on you, friends are there to bring joy and happiness to your life. My perpective of friendships is when they can laugh off their faults and not take them seriously, frequent minor arguments happening that you can always bring up and laugh it off, they are people who will be there for you to help and when they will also be there to support you. Friends are people who will take your opinions and suggestions constructively. Friends who have been there for you for longer that 6 months are friends that you will always be true to.

Friendships is never a fairytale story with a fairytale ending. I don't believe in "Friends forever", "Best Friends", "Happily ever after". These things will never happen. They are just statements that will come out of your mouths when you are happy and have the urge to say something like these. For sure, during friendships there is to be bound a few squabbles occurring between friends, that is no more happily ever after. There are bound to more friends out there that are better than your "best friends". There will be a day when a problem could lead to anger and hatred between each other, no more "Friends Forever".

When there are problems between friends, "whatever" do not solve the problem, it is a sign that you are weak when handling that fact, and you want that person to stop. They will not stop, they will go on insulting. Figure out a good rebuttal and fend off your dignity and attack them back. Soon, you will realise that both of you are equally not perfect, you will laugh off that situation, keep in my mind what were the insults that were dumped on you, work on it and be a better person. Insults are not opinions, they are a view indicating that you are not good enough because of these insults, turn over the situation by flipping that insult into a comment. It is a criticism that they want you to know that you have to work on them.